As I was guiltily eating the last piece of pizza, I started thinking about our perception of the ideal body image, our unhealthy desire to be perfect, and how many of my clients would be horrified if they could see me now. I don’t think it’s much of a secret that in the world of gay men, the relentless pursuit of having the perfect body is a favorite pastime. In some instances, that drive towards perfection can help us to achieve our goals and can be a powerful motivator. But, as with most things, there’s a fine line between what could be considered a healthy pursuit of what we want and an obsession with perfection that can lead to serious consequences. The airbrushed ideals of what we think we should look like have contributed to roughly 10 million men with an eating disorder including anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating. And out of those 10 million men, it is estimated that 42% of them identify as gay.