Your loneliness is a gift. Stop ignoring it.

I’ve had the opportunity to meet some really amazing guys since I’ve begun this journey. One of the topics that’s really resonated with me is “loneliness.” My friend, Phil McAuliffe can speak on that subject so much better than I can… and he graciously agreed to write a guest post. You can find him on […]

Can Routine Help You Through Hard Times?

I spoke with Alexander Gerard the other day who hosts the Proud to be Out podcast. We discussed some of the more specific issues gay men face and some techniques that can help navigate the hard times. “This episode is all about getting mentally stronger through routine and sport! Steven Seidel, Gay Men’s Health and […]

Go Under the Knife, or Go to the Gym

In the movie, Death Becomes Her, Madeline Ashton’s (Meryl Streep) lamentation on the inevitable decline of her youth, “Wrinkled wrinkled little star, hope they never see the scars” probably hits a little closer to home than most of us would like to admit. For thousands of years people have dreamt of, written about and searched […]

Is The Gym Judgy?

The other night I went on a first date and I experienced something that I hadn’t in a very long time.  Before I let your imagination run too wild, I will just tell you.  It was the first time in quite a while that I experienced being the “new guy” in the gym. I am […]

5 Reasons You Should Be Doing Meal Prep

My toxic trait is that I cannot seem to control myself around a lot of things. Usually it’s things like guys who don’t treat me well, or things I don’t need from Ross, but it’s marked down even more from it’s already rock bottom everyday price so how can I resist?!? I won’t be talking […]

What We Aren’t Talking About Is Killing Us

It was about 20 years ago, I was living on my own in Colorado. I was in my mid-twenties, footloose and on my own. Things were going great, until they weren’t. I’m not really sure what happened, because it creeps in on you, or at least it did on me. It wasn’t like one day […]

What The Hell Is Your WHY?

Yesterday I was talking with someone who wanted me to give them some advice on how to get back to the gym, how to get back into working out, maybe even an exercise routine. I could have answered him with the usual list of reasons why it’s important to exercise and take care of ourselves, […]

Fuck Fitting In

As I was guiltily eating the last piece of pizza, I started thinking about our perception of the ideal body image, our unhealthy desire to be perfect, and how many of my clients would be horrified if they could see me now. I don’t think it’s much of a secret that in the world of […]